Unshakeable Peace: 5 Tips that Changed My Life.

Having peace wasn’t something I considered an important aspect of life. I felt peace was optional. Something that wasn’t as important as my other responsibilities such as work and school.  Peace to me was an abstract idea. It seemed like a far distant world. Perhaps even something that couldn’t be achieved. Through the trials I have been through I learned that having peace is a core value that I need to possess in order to achieve the life I have always dreamed of.  Unshakeable peace is something I learned through having plenty of moments in my life where I felt like I had reached emotional rock bottom. I was showing up for all of my obligations, but I felt tired and a less effective version of myself. After finding it hard to connect with myself because I was flooded with outside noise. I found that prioritizing peace had to be more important to me than my other obligations. Through my own life journey I have learned five tips that have changed my life and ultimately gave me unshakeable peace.

1.       Check In with Yourself

Most people say yes to a commitment without even asking themselves if they can actually do it. We quickly want to appease the people around us and instantly search ourselves to be able to find the capacity to meet the needs of others. What if for a moment we consider ourselves and the way we feel ? Can we actually make this commitment happen without compromising our own energy. Are we sacrificing a part of ourselves to meet the obligations we have set for ourselves? It’s time to start taking a moment to truly search ourselves and as can we actually do it ? Don’t just quickly say yes and regret it later. Take a deep breath, pause before you say yes. Check in with your inner you before you obligate yourself. I once was a person who loved to say yes. I thought it made me feel complete to fill my schedule with tasks to complete. However, the end result led me to becoming a person I actually did not want to be. After a while I wasn’t true to myself or even recognized myself. I now take a moment to check in with me, and evaluate myself to see if the thing I am being asked can be done. If it can’t be done I am comfortable saying no . Embrace your ability to say no.

2.       Morning  Ritual

Create a calm, consistent morning ritual for yourself. This routine is soft and nonnegotiable.  Your morning ritual is a opportunity to set yourself up for a peaceful calm day. Your morning ritual can consist of mediation, morning workout, and a healthy breakfast. Take this time to connect with yourself. I love a morning ritual. My morning ritual is prayer and a workout. It has made the difference for me. My days are more centered. I feel I have more control over my emotions and how I respond to others. My morning routine allows me to be soft and at peace. Allow yourself the gift of a morning ritual that you create just for you and your peace. The morning is also a great time to do your daily affirmations. You can spend your morning ritual pouring into yourself spiritually.

3.        Detach from Other’s Emotions

Managing the emotions of other people is a quick way to zap your peace. The emotions of other people are unpredictable. Often times it can bring you up just to bring you down. When you attempt to explain yourself to others, tip toes around their emotions, you put yourself at risk for disappointment. Then who will manage your emotions? Learn how to respond to what deserves a response and detach yourself from the emotions. Let other’s emotions belong to them. Do not risk trying to manage their emotions. This can not only lead to conflict but disappointment as well. The people in your life have the capacity to own their own emotions and deal with them accordingly. Imagine the highs and lows you experience throughout the day attempting to navigate through the emotional responses of the people in your life. Your peace continues to take a hit when you try to fix them. It’s perfectly ok to have your response and release them to deal with their feelings towards you. You’re main focus is your own emotions. It’s been a process for me as well to navigate my spouse and daughter’s emotions but I have learned I can’t control how they feel but I can control how I respond to it. It had radically changed my inner peace. You too can respond and detach.

4.       Check Your Energy Tank

Before you commit yourself to anything ask yourself how full is my energy tank? Do I have energy to actually do this ? According to the level of your tank it is ok to adjust your commitments based on how you actually feel. Don’t commit based on how you wish you felt. That is why you check in with yourself before you say yes. You also must check to see if you have the capacity to complete the tasks in front of you. Slow down if you need to. Take your time getting it done if your body is telling you that you are tired. You might even need to be vulnerable and admit you need help. Asking for help is perfectly ok. Start developing a comfortable relationship with asking for help. If your energy tank is low you can’t possibly show up as your best self. Always have the priority of your peace in front of you. Adjust accordingly, slow down and get help when you need it.

5.       Let Them Go

Not all people or situations align with our identity. It’s difficult to assess the people and things in your life, but in order to optimize your peace you have to remain in alignment with your identity. Not all people can evolve with us as we grow.  We may outgrow certain people or situations. When that happens tension is created in our lives because we aren’t align. Some people may even want to hold you accountable to a version of yourself that you no longer are.  Release the people that no longer align with who you are now. Having unshakable peace may mean saying goodbye to relationships that no longer serve your destiny. Maybe it’s where you live or work. You also have to be brave enough to walk away from circumstances to allow growth and peace. Avoid the need to keep the status quo if it no longer allows your peace to flourish. Your unshakeable peace means saying goodbye with sincere love and well wishes.

Unshakeable Peace

I mastered unshakable peace while enduring some difficult times in life. Peace is something we make a core value in our life. It’s not negotiable nor is it easily compromised. Ask yourself before you say yes. Make sure your emotional tank is full while you are accomplishing your goals. Create a soft, meaningful morning ritual for yourself full of mediation and affirmations. You are allowed to respond without managing the outcome of their emotions. Release the people and circumstances that no longer align with the person you are today. Unshakeable peace is in reach, now go grab it and hold on.